Agony aunts	

Dear Sue,

I'm worried about my boss. S/ he knows I'm married but s/ he's always asking me to go out for dinner and drinks with him /her. Usually none of my colleagues are present and when we talk 
s /he asks very personal questions. 

I try to make excuses to refuse these invitations but when I do s /he seems bad-tempered afterwards.
I'm hoping for promotion this year – in fact, I really need it as I need extra money for our children's school fees. But I'm worried that if I don't accept my boss's constant invitations, s /he might block my promotion. What should I do?	
Dear Sue,

I've fallen in love with one of my colleagues. We have known each other for a long time, but recently we have become more than 'just friends'. We haven't done anything - if you know what I mean, except once when we held hands under the table in a restaurant. The problem is, believe it or not, I still love my [husband / wife] and do not really want to break up that relationship as we have children. My colleague is single and says s/he would marry me immediately if I left my [husband / wife]. The trouble is, I just can't stop thinking about [him / her]. We often phone each other secretly and if I don't hear from him / her for more than a day, I go crazy.	
Dear Sue,

I think my [husband / wife] might be having an affair. S / he was always very loving and affectionate until a few months ago. But now s/ he seems cold. It's difficult to say exactly how this is, but s / he is definitely different. S / he has started staying very late at work saying they have an important project they have to finish. Sometimes I know s/ he  goes out for dinner afterwards with his / her colleagues when they work late. I'm sure s / he fancies one of his / her colleagues.

Now s / he has told me that s/ he will have to go away for the weekend next week with his / her colleagues. This has never happened before and I'm worried that really s / he is going away for a romantic weekend with one of his / her colleagues. If I complain about all the overtime, s / he just gets angry and says I'm selfish.	
Dear Sue,

I recently met a man / woman at a conference and we were immediately attracted to each other. S/he is just my type in terms of looks and is a very nice person. The only problem is that s / he lives in [Hungary / Korea / Brazil etc.] and only comes here once a month on business. The other problem is that s/ he doesn't speak any Chinese and only a little English. I don't speak any of his / her language. S / he says he is taking English classes, but I'm wondering whether the relationship will work out. I'm really head-over-heels about him / her though.	
Dear Sue

I have known my best friend since we were at school. We get on really well although we've always been quite competitive in a good-natured way. Anyway, I've been going out with this girl / guy for the past few months and I think my best friend fancies him / her too.
My best friend always stares at my new boy /girlfriend when we are together and quite often asks my boy / girlfriend to meet him / her for lunch and so on, even when I'm sitting there listening!
Frankly I think s/he's got a cheek. What do you think I should do?	
Dear Sue

There's this girl / guy at work who I knows fancies me. S / he is always giving me presents and asking me out. Sometimes I go, and although I quite like him / her, I don't really fancy him / her.
Still, I haven't got a boy / girlfriend at the moment and I quite like being taken out. He / she is better off than me financially – s/he is from a rich family – so we always go to expensive places. The presents are nice too – all top notch designer stuff. Now s / he has asked me to go for a weekend to [Tokyo / Paris / Bangkok / New York etc.] with him or her. Of course, that will mean sharing a room, and who knows... perhaps a bed, which will put take things to a different level. What should I do?	
Dear Sue,

My boy / girlfriend is very nice and kind. We have been going out together for over a year and I still fancy him / her like I met him / her yesterday. But s / he is from a rather old-fashioned family background and is very conservative. Absolutely no sex before marriage. The trouble is I am from a much more liberal background, and although I am not the type for one-night stands, I can't go along with this no-sex-before-marriage stuff. Also, I don't really know whether I want to marry him / her. We're both still quite young and I'm not ready yet for the responsibilities of marriage,
What should I do?
	
Dear Sue,

I have been married for a long time and my children are at university. I got married very young so I'm not so old, and still like to enjoy life. The trouble is my husband / wife is rather dull. When we were younger s / he was great fun. W went out a lot together and s / he had a lot of energy. But over the years s / he has become old in his / her behaviour even though s/ he is only the same age as me.

To be frank, I'm bored. I want a younger man / woman in my life. At the same time, I don't really know if I could leave my husband / wife. We have got used to each other after all this time and although s/ he is rather dull, I'm still very fond of him / her. I'm worried about how s / he would cope without me. Perhaps I could just have a secret affair – very casual. There are a number of young girls / guys in my office and I know at least one of them fancies me. Would it be so terrible if I did this? After all, you only live once!